If you had asked me five years ago the best way to make a decision, I would have answered you emphatically with the following: make a list of pros and cons, assess possible outcomes from all vantage points and take yourself through each likely scenario until the winning solution presents itself.
Whew. Are you exhausted yet?
Not surprisingly, that head-centered approach to life left me depleted, frustrated and burnt out. But in a culture that often reveres the power of the mind over the heart, I didn’t even realize that I had other options. Options that didn’t include Excel spreadsheets, pros/cons lists and endless hours of processing.
I soon discovered that a head-centric way of life rarely, if ever, leads to the abundant, deeply rewarding life that I craved. It’s not that the mind is bad. It’s a powerful tool to use for planning, sorting details and taking action steps. But it is not the sole place you or I are meant to live from.
There is a deeper place that we can inhabit on a more regular basis. A place where our inner heart truth can be accessed so that we can live in the richness we deserve.
And good news, because getting there needn’t take hours logged on a therapist’s or our best friend’s couch. We have the ability to tap into our inner heart truth in mere minutes. Curious? Ready? Follow the three steps below to connect to your inner heart truth now.
Step 1: Step away from the information overload. Leave your cell phone, iPad, laptop, Kindle and whatever other electronics typically surround you in another room. Find a comfy and peaceful place to sit quietly (sometimes yes, your only option may be the bathroom — but do whatever you need to get away from it all momentarily).
Step 2: Take 4-7 deep belly breaths, placing one hand on your lower belly. Breathe into your hand, allowing your inhale to extend your belly out as far as possible and on the exhale allowing your belly to sink into your body. Make this breathing your only focus.
Step 3: Next, place your right hand on your heart and your left hand on the top of your head. Focus your attention first on your left hand on your head and then slowly move your attention to your right hand on your heart. Feel the fingers in your right hand and feel the skin of your chest (or collar of your shirt). Slowly begin to lightly tap over the head and heart — right hand tapping over heart, left hand over the top of the head. After about 10 seconds, move your left hand from the top of your head to over your right hand on your heart. Gradually slow down the tapping, resting both hands over your heart center. Breathe into your heart for 4-7 breaths. Visualize green love light emanating from your chest.
When you feel ready, open your eyes. Notice how the colors in the room appear brighter than before, how your breath has slowed down and how you may suddenly have clarity about something that was ailing you.
Welcome to being connected to your inner heart truth.
Use this exercise as often as you need. If you’re a head-led superstar (as I used to be) you may need to do this several times a day until a heart-centered approach becomes more of a habit. Soon though, you’ll experience a greater connection to inner heart truth without the impediment of the mind.
Take five minutes to do this exercise now and tell us what you noticed in the comments below. Love! xo
It wasn’t that long ago when I believed that to be successful I had to hustle. You know, attend copious amounts of networking events, be on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pintrest, LinkedIn and HerFuture simultaneously, offer discount sessions to clients to drum up business and essentially drain myself, all in the hopes of success.
Turns out, that is not the way to thrive and run a vibrant business. Instead, I was left with adrenal fatigue and a slightly enhanced, but certainly not thriving bank account. With no more hustle left in me, I was forced to give up on conventional methods and following the pack. So I surrendered, and discovered that the true key to success in business (or in any area of life, for that matter) is to follow one’s inner guidance from the spirit within. I learned that when our higher self leads the way, abundance abounds.
Now, a year later, I’ve more than doubled my income and my daily joy quotient.
Want to do the same? Follow the five tips below and you’ll be well on your way to thriving in your spirit-led business.
Meditate every day. I know, I know — you’ve heard it all before. But there’s a reason why everyone from Deepak Chopra to the Dalai Lama is telling you to meditate. It is the quickest way to connect to that part of you that knows and to retrain your mind to shut up. And when the mind shuts off, the spirit thrives.
Receive consistent energy healing. After spending more than 10 years in therapy, I realized that while a lot in my life had changed (my hair, my clothes, my occupation), I still seemed plagued with the same patterns in relationships, as well as the tendency to never rise above a certain level of success. It was like I had my own self-imposed glass ceiling. Disgruntled, I gave in when a friend suggested I try BodyTalk, because frankly, it seemed like it was my last option. After three sessions, my entire life transformed and I’ve been hooked ever since. Find a model and a practitioner that resonate with you and receive twice-monthly sessions. Then enjoy watching as your life and business soar.
Surround yourself with high-vibrating peeps. Hanging out with folks who are struggling in their businesses and lives is a surefire way to stay exactly where you are. Tony Robbins tells us we can see where our future is headed by the quality of the five people closest to us. Take a close look at the conversations you’re having and the people you spend your time with. Do you leave those interactions feeling inspired? If not, it’s time to look at making some changes in who you spend your time with. Don’t have access to folks who are living their dreams and embroiled in success? Start listening to their audio/video offerings, attend their book signings, courses and lectures. Immerse yourself in the energy of success. This will raise your vibration and the vibration of your business.
Say “no” to anything not in alignment with your soul purpose. Of course this means you need to know what your soul purpose is (practice the first three tips above and it will make itself known to you). Once you have your soul purpose in hand, do not under any circumstances take on clients or work that are not in alignment with it — especially if your thought is, “Oh, I’ll just do this for the money.” The month after I stopped doing work “just for the money,” my monthly income quadrupled. Trust me on this, stick to soul-purpose work and your business will skyrocket.
Have more fun. Working 70 to 80 hour weeks in the name of success is not fun — no matter how much you love what you do. Make sure you include fun in your daily life. The biggest attractor of opportunities is positive high-vibrating energy and nothing gets you there faster than having a blast in your personal life and with your business. Take yourself out on a date, see your favorite show, skip down the sidewalk, laugh at a funny movie (or better yet, laugh at the part of you that thought nose-to-the-grindstone work was the path to success), eat fro-yo, have whatever your version of fun is. You and your business deserve to be having a lot more of it.
We all deserve to thrive. It’s our birthright. And to thrive, we need to take empowered steps that let our spirit and everyone around us know that we are committed to thriving. If you follow the five tips above, your business and your life will thrive like never before.
I would love to hear your thriving success stories, so leave your comments below. Love! xo