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It was a beautiful and bright Saturday afternoon. My closest friend and I sat outside sipping the last of the summer’s rosé as we took in the sights at the outdoor wine bar we were nestled in. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, she said it. She said the words almost no one (certainly no writer) wants to hear, let alone from someone they love and respect.
“I don’t like your book.”
The book she was referring to is my second novel in The Quest series (currently, the first has been optioned as a feature-length film), Following Bliss. And because I love my friend dearly and know that she meant no real harm, her criticism wasn’t a barricade to our friendship, but it did spark something within me that needed to be addressed. Through my investigation, I uncovered five insights that reconnected me with who I really am, even amidst criticism, and it’s my intention they do the same for you. I found that we can let criticism inspire, not deflate us. Here’s why:
1) Just because it’s “true” to one person doesn’t it make it helpful or accurate. A critic usually thinks they are sharing their criticism from a place of “helping” — either you or in the larger scheme of things, the world. But the truth is, it’s merely their opinion. It may be true for them, but they are one person with one opinion. Their truth is most certainly not your truth, nor does it have to be. If there are many critics who seem to be knocking down your door with their “help” move on to insight number two…
2) Not everyone will “get” you. Everything we experience in life comes in through our numerous conditioned filters. It’s why 10 people can see a car accident and all 10 have a different version of what happened. Or why we can view a work of art and have our whole world opened up while others may despise it. We all see life through the lens we have been conditioned and raised with either through religious beliefs, cultural guidelines or significant life experiences. The hippocampus, part of the brain’s limbic system, records what occurs throughout our life as fact. Then it works with the rest of the brain to create stories and meaning for whatever has occurred. How we see the world depends entirely on our conditioned filters and that’s different for everyone.
3) It actually doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. “I pay no attention whatever to anybody’s praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings.” — Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
I chewed on my friend’s words, allowed them to sink in and even though it hurt, I couldn’t let her thoughts deter me. In fact, I realized that even if I was the worst writer in the world, there’s nothing that can stop me from writing. While I had agonized over the guidance I received to write fiction, I now know that it is an important part of my path. Besides, I’m writing because I can’t not write it. Because the story flows through me and my inner guidance screams at me to complete it and share with others. Because when I pass on from this life, I will be so proud of myself for doing what I came here to do, even if people anywhere or everywhere think that it sucks. And isn’t that what we’re all going for — loving our lives no matter what, experiencing the fullness of doing what we love?
4) Someone loves you. For every naysayer there are 10, 100, 1,000-plus who will love the work you are putting out into the world. Recently, I met a working an artist who has a very unique style of art. He was sharing with me that people often have incredibly strong reactions to his art, many with criticism. But, he also has carved out a niche that allows him to sell hundreds of paintings to those who not only “get” but absolutely adore his work. As he reminded me, his job is to honor the gift that comes through him and let the Universe take care of the rest. So, while my friend strongly disliked my latest novel, I’ve also received countless emails from readers who have felt inspired and even moved to tears from it. Bottom line: it’s all relative and your people will “get” and love you for whatever it is you are moved to share with the world.
5) It’s all happening for you. Ultimately, every experience in life happens so that we can become more of who we really are. Even when people show up with negativity and criticism, it’s showing us a part of ourselves that needs attention. My friend was mirroring back to me my own shadow, my own self-doubt. Our exchange forced me to look at the areas where I was being critical of myself. So, instead of getting caught up in blaming her for being an unsupportive friend, I realized that I needed to become more of a champion for my writing and to release the self-doubt that she was clearly mirroring back to me. And that’s when I called up my favorite BodyTalk practitioner to release my own internal criticism and step into my own self-cheerleading.
Instead of letting criticism sideline us, we all have an opportunity to let criticism inspire us. Criticism can allow us to get even more clear about our gifts, talents and what we want to share with others. It can allow us to heal aspects of our own inner critic and release us into the knowing that doing what we are guided to do is all that matters. It can set us free from people-pleasing so that we can be fully aligned with our soul’s purpose. As I work on novel number three in The Quest series, I feel ever more determined to shine my light through each page, knowing that the message will reach those that it is meant to and that most importantly of all in this journey of life; I’m having a whole lot of fun along the way.
Posted: December 1st, 2013 under Uncategorized.
For four years I worked in what most would consider — myself included — the best corporate job a girl could have. I was able to work from home most of the time, I enjoyed lots of autonomy, worked with great people, was paid a decent salary and had awesome health benefits. In short, I was experiencing a so-called “dream job.” Even so, in quiet moments I would feel a tug in my heart, a call to step outside the delightful corporate box I was in and go deeper. The calls of entrepreneurship were getting louder and stronger, despite my batting the thoughts away.
Then, one day during my meditation practice, a knowing thought floated in. “Give notice on April 12, your last day will be June 12.” At this point I had been seeing clients as a BodyTalk practitioner on the side — on evenings and weekends. I was only seeing three clients a week at best, so diving full time into my healing practice seemed premature. However, a deeper part of me knew that this guidance was too strong and too clear to ignore. So a week later, I gave my notice.
Fast forward one year later and my practice is thriving in ways I never imagined. My healing circles and courses have more than quadrupled in size and I have had such demand for my healing that I’ve had to make significant changes to how many in-person clients I see so that I can facilitate more distance sessions for clients all over North America. I’m living a lifestyle I didn’t even know was possible for me back when that first piece of guidance floated in.
You see, ever since that first bit of inspired guidance, I have been following everything that my intuition and outer guidance through meditation brings. And as I do, my practice has thrived like nothing I’ve ever experienced before.
This is the new paradigm of business, where our intuition is the CEO.
We are fortunate enough to live in a country that allows us to pretty much start up any business of our choice and we live in a time in human consciousness where we don’t have to play by the old rules. We can run a business completely led by our inner guidance. Others may call this our soul, our higher self or our inner pilot light — but it all means the same thing — it’s the part of us that knows. We all have it, and I imagine a world where we are all using it, all of the time.
Look at revolutionaries like Oprah and Steve Jobs — folks who consistently mention “intuition” as part of their process. I believe we can all thrive in our businesses and in our lives if we make intuition our CEO.
That doesn’t mean we completely abandon the brilliance of the mind, but it does mean the mind stops making all of our decisions. Our culture has revered the mind for so long that almost all of us in the Western world think that who we really are, is the thoughts we think and what’s going on in our mind. But, that’s absolutely not true. The mind is much like a computer and the thoughts we think are just reoccurrences of conditioning and messaging we’ve absorbed throughout our life. Our inner guidance is meant to lead the way and then allows the mind to do what it does best — sort out details, make a plan, take action steps. We’ve had it backwards the whole time!
So, how do you know if you’re ready to make your intuition the CEO of your business? Three indicators that you might be:
• You were immediately drawn to this article and feel excited as you read these words.
• You feel bored with your job or current business model. You feel a tug or a pull from within to expand, but your mind has no idea what that could be and the options out there just don’t “feel” right or don’t pan out if you try to “make” them happen.
• You have experienced making intuitive decisions instead of mind-based ones and have seen instant results — in ways that shocked and inspired you.
So, how do you start? My upcoming online course Run a Spirit-Led Business (& Thrive!) is geared towards giving you all of the tools you need to join this new paradigm of business, a paradigm where we let the knowing within us light the way as we reach new heights in our success. Leave your comments and questions below — I would love to support you on this rich and abundant journey!
Posted: September 6th, 2013 under Uncategorized.
Patty* called me frustrated and dejected. She constantly compared herself to others all the while steadily resisting the signs (like getting sick, having no energy and feeling unhappy) that were trying to redirect her out of her business, into her creativity and into her sacred feminine.
I reminded Patty that her resistance wasn’t entirely a bad thing.
It was merely an indication that she was really, really close to having what she desired — and possibly in a form that she never even imagined possible for herself. Sometimes the thought of having what we have longed for, for so long or embarking on a new, unknowable journey is terrifying. Like, absolutely devastatingly frightening to our mind and to our conditioning that says it’s not possible to radically alter our life, leave or start a relationship, leave or start a business or romance ourselves every day simply because we deserve it.
As human beings we often have unconscious beliefs, fears and traumas still running active in our body-mind-spirit. So, sometimes we’re going to resist. We’ll come up with any and every excuse to not go down that road. We’ll pay healers, coaches and therapists to make it better (and while they facilitate powerful healing, it is up to us as individuals to do the work to allow this healing to occur), and then get angry in the face of the guidance we receive.
I can say all of this with strong conviction because let me tell you, I know this road well. And I feel so honored that when clients like Patty come to me with any or all of the above, I can share from a place of having walked (and still walking!) that path right alongside them.
In fact, I’ve actually observed and identified my basic resistance process:
1.) I receive guidance or have a life experience that requires me to go outside of my comfort zone in some way.
2.) I then spend two-to-three weeks with my mind battling out all of the reasons said expansion is too much, too scary, too premature.
3.) Then, timidly I begin telling those close to me about this next thing I’m going to do/be/have. The resistance softens as I own it as my reality more and more.
4.) By week four to five, I’m in acceptance! But it sure would be a lot easier to not have to go through that process at all. Right?!
Can you identify your basic resistance process? How do you respond when you receive guidance or have life experiences that don’t feel comfortable to you? It’s helpful to raise your awareness and notice the next time you’re in resistance. Because then, you are in a powerful place. A place to shift your resistance into thriving.
Below are some of my tried-and-true ways to move out of resistance and into our natural state of thriving:
• Dance. Nothing shifts your vibration like shaking it. Right now I’ve got “Royals” by Lorde on repeat to shake and shift my vibration whenever needed.
• Take a 20-minute cat nap. Sleep is the ultimate reset.
• Tap cortices. Visualize balancing the left and right hemispheres of your brain as you do this. Really got yourself in a tizzy? Tap multiple times in a row, slowly, while taking deep breaths.
• Meditate. As little as five minutes of sitting in meditation can shift your whole vibration. If you prefer guided meditations, I highly recommend Getting Into the The Vortex by Esther Hicks.
• Go for a walk. Outside. As you walk connect with the greenery around you, imagine green light emanating from your chest to support your fourth chakra of self-love and love of others. In the desert or a less-than-green environment? Imagine an orange ball of light in your pelvis growing brighter to activate your second chakra (how you relate to everything outside of you — money, sex, power, people).
• Laugh. Pull up NetFlix comedy videos, call up your funniest friend, watch your favorite laugh-out loud movie (for me, that’s “Baby Mama”).
• Listen to teachers and authors you respect who inspire you. Michael Bernard Beckwith and Abraham-Hicks do it for me. Pull them up on Hay House Radio or YouTube for an insta-vibration lift.
• Self-pleasure. Slowly and without attachment to outcome. In fact, light some candles, turn on some music and enjoy being present with your body. It’s just like a meditation.
• Recite a mantra that soothes you. Some examples to get your started:
“Everything is always working out for me.”
“I am balanced, harmonious and peaceful.”
“I follow the flow of my life.”
“I am on my way to thriving!”
A great way to get ahead of resistance before it shows up is to take this list and add your own joyful, high-vibing activities that shift your vibration. Then whenever you notice yourself resisting what is, you can saunter (or plod, depending on your mood) over to your resistance shifting cheat sheet and begin going down the list applying these practices until you feel your natural state of thriving return.
Ultimately, know that as cliché as it sounds — this too shall pass. Your resistance won’t last forever. With intention and an empowered attitude, you can experience a life that truly thrives.
What are your favorite ways to release resistance? Leave your comments below.
*Not her real name.
Posted: August 30th, 2013 under Uncategorized.
Michelle* was one of the most demanding people in my life. She was also my “best friend.” She called every day for minimum one-hour chats, expected me to plan parties for any and every occasion and frowned upon my decision to have a steady boyfriend. In essence, Michelle wanted me at her beck and call. And for many years, I thought that being a friend meant you had to do what the other person wanted. That somehow sacrifice of self showed just how much you loved and valued them. This type of out-of-balance thinking caused me to attract “friends” who would play this belief out with me time and again.
Early on, the friendship was a fit and we were a match on many levels. But then, as I began my self-development journey, it became more and more clear that my friendship with Michelle was actually causing me more stress than joy.
It was clear to me that we needed to break up. Michelle wasn’t interested in doing her spiritual work and she certainly wasn’t interested in changing our relationship dynamic. Whenever I made adjustments (like finally getting a boyfriend or no longer planning her parties), a drama would ensue. When I tried to talk to her about my needs in the friendship, she stared at me blankly.
But letting go of someone who has been a prominent fixture in your life is often no easy undertaking. As I continue to grow and flourish on my path, I have faced this challenge many times and now regard it as an important part of my self-care practice. I love having people in my life that are true partners with me on this wonderful journey.
So, how do you know if someone in your life is like my experience with Michelle and no longer serves your highest good? Here’s a checklist to get you started:
• How do you feel — the majority of the time — after you interact with this person? Anxious, irritated and low energy? Or inspired, joyful and excited about life?
• What do you usually focus on when you spend time with this person? Is the conversation more centered on what’s happening in their life and what they need? Or do you feel heard and supported?
• Is there a natural flow to your time together? Or is it difficult to find time to connect, and when you do is it usually based on what the other person wants?
Our body is always letting us know if a person/place/thing is in alignment for us. And how we feel after and during our time with someone is a really good indicator of whether or not they are serving our highest good.
No doubt in the case of my “friend” Michelle, she felt great leaving our interactions. It’s important that both parties feel nourished, supported and loved in the friendship (or whatever it is that you need to feel with the people in your life). If that’s not happening, having a conversation about this and asking for your needs to be met is vital. See The Center for Nonviolent Communication as an excellent tool for these conversations.
If attempts to bring healing to the relationship fail, try the following:
• The slow fade out. Some friendships can dissipate with the slow fade. This means only attending meetups or events when it feels really good to you or in alignment for you — if it does at all. No more attending or doing anything “out of obligation” (ever, for any friendship!).
• If a friendship has been in your life for a while, or like Michelle gets very triggered when action is taken to shift the dynamic, try this approach via email:
Dear (name of person no longer serving your highest good),
As I’ve shared with you previously, things have changed for me in our friendship. I’m not feeling supported or nourished (or whatever adjective works for you) anymore. I really feel like we are in different places in our life and it feels better to me if we take a timeout from one another. I love you, but I really need to take care of me right now.
In truth, we can’t be anyone’s friend if we aren’t taking care of ourselves first and foremost. And having people and relationships in our life that deplete us is the opposite of self-care.
It’s important that when we choose to release people from our lives that we are also doing our self-work so we can see why we attracted these people and what we can do to attract individuals who inspire, support and nourish us in the future.
Do you have experience in letting go of people who no longer serve your highest good? Tell us your story in the comments below — how did you release them?
*Not her real name.
Posted: August 6th, 2013 under Uncategorized.
I wanted it. Really, really badly.
And that “it” could be any number of things — a job, a super-skinny body, loads of cash, a boyfriend, a car, a vacation, working for myself. Whatever. I just had to have it. So, I went after it full throttle. I hustled. I hurried. I followed leads. I networked. I online dated. I used all of the manifestation gumption in my power (and as a first-born Aries, that’s a lot!) to make what I wanted happen.
Sometimes this worked like magic. Other times, no matter what I did, what I desired would not show itself to me. Lesser forms might appear but the true manifestation of what I wanted still evaded me. Dejected and frankly irritated that my usual manifestation power failed, I often launched into a full-on tantrum aimed specifically at the universe. This typically involved tears, yelling and feet stomping followed by giving the universe the double finger. I know, real mature, right? My inner 13-year-old was alive and well.
Even more shocking, what I wanted had yet to materialize. It seems as though the universe won’t surrender to temper tantrums. Who knew?!
Finally, exhausted, I would stop trying. I would eat what I wanted, spend money when I wanted and only do the work that I wanted. I stopped networking and spent time with myself. Around that time said object of my desire would either show up or I would forget I cared so much about it because something even more fantastic had arrived.
Did it happen because I finally raised my vibration to align with what I wanted? Or was it because I wasn’t “meant” to have it until that divinely appointed time? Does it matter?
Actually no, it doesn’t. What does matter is the principle — that when we are trying and working so hard to “make” or “manifest” something — it simply cannot happen. When we relax, have fun and take care of ourselves, then what we want can manifest. The very energy of wanting something so badly hurtles it far, far away from us.
Manifesting is one of the awesome gifts of being human. But one of the primary components of manifesting is to send our request out into the universe and then let it go. Surrender to the powers that be and let it do the heavy lifting.
Spiritual teacher and author Marianne Williamson says,
When we surrender to God, we surrender to something bigger than ourselves — to a universe that knows what it’s doing. When we stop trying to control events they fall into a natural order, an order that works. We’re at rest while a power much greater than our own takes over, and it does a much better job than we could have done. We learn to trust that the power that holds galaxies together can handle the circumstances of our relatively little lives.
You may have noticed that while reading the above quote your whole body relaxed. That you even let out a little sigh. It’s simply the deeper part of you saying “yes.” Take this quote and put it up — on your bathroom mirror, in your car on your tea kettle — any place where you can regularly see it.
Remember that you are a powerful being and one of the greatest powers you have lies in surrendering to something even larger and more powerful than you.
And when you surrender you will find, as I have, that you won’t ever have to flip anyone off again, including the universe.
Posted: August 4th, 2013 under Uncategorized.
If you had asked me five years ago the best way to make a decision, I would have answered you emphatically with the following: make a list of pros and cons, assess possible outcomes from all vantage points and take yourself through each likely scenario until the winning solution presents itself.
Whew. Are you exhausted yet?
Not surprisingly, that head-centered approach to life left me depleted, frustrated and burnt out. But in a culture that often reveres the power of the mind over the heart, I didn’t even realize that I had other options. Options that didn’t include Excel spreadsheets, pros/cons lists and endless hours of processing.
I soon discovered that a head-centric way of life rarely, if ever, leads to the abundant, deeply rewarding life that I craved. It’s not that the mind is bad. It’s a powerful tool to use for planning, sorting details and taking action steps. But it is not the sole place you or I are meant to live from.
There is a deeper place that we can inhabit on a more regular basis. A place where our inner heart truth can be accessed so that we can live in the richness we deserve.
And good news, because getting there needn’t take hours logged on a therapist’s or our best friend’s couch. We have the ability to tap into our inner heart truth in mere minutes. Curious? Ready? Follow the three steps below to connect to your inner heart truth now.
Step 1: Step away from the information overload. Leave your cell phone, iPad, laptop, Kindle and whatever other electronics typically surround you in another room. Find a comfy and peaceful place to sit quietly (sometimes yes, your only option may be the bathroom — but do whatever you need to get away from it all momentarily).
Step 2: Take 4-7 deep belly breaths, placing one hand on your lower belly. Breathe into your hand, allowing your inhale to extend your belly out as far as possible and on the exhale allowing your belly to sink into your body. Make this breathing your only focus.
Step 3: Next, place your right hand on your heart and your left hand on the top of your head. Focus your attention first on your left hand on your head and then slowly move your attention to your right hand on your heart. Feel the fingers in your right hand and feel the skin of your chest (or collar of your shirt). Slowly begin to lightly tap over the head and heart — right hand tapping over heart, left hand over the top of the head. After about 10 seconds, move your left hand from the top of your head to over your right hand on your heart. Gradually slow down the tapping, resting both hands over your heart center. Breathe into your heart for 4-7 breaths. Visualize green love light emanating from your chest.
When you feel ready, open your eyes. Notice how the colors in the room appear brighter than before, how your breath has slowed down and how you may suddenly have clarity about something that was ailing you.
Welcome to being connected to your inner heart truth.
Use this exercise as often as you need. If you’re a head-led superstar (as I used to be) you may need to do this several times a day until a heart-centered approach becomes more of a habit. Soon though, you’ll experience a greater connection to inner heart truth without the impediment of the mind.
Take five minutes to do this exercise now and tell us what you noticed in the comments below. Love! xo
It wasn’t that long ago when I believed that to be successful I had to hustle. You know, attend copious amounts of networking events, be on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pintrest, LinkedIn and HerFuture simultaneously, offer discount sessions to clients to drum up business and essentially drain myself, all in the hopes of success.
Turns out, that is not the way to thrive and run a vibrant business. Instead, I was left with adrenal fatigue and a slightly enhanced, but certainly not thriving bank account. With no more hustle left in me, I was forced to give up on conventional methods and following the pack. So I surrendered, and discovered that the true key to success in business (or in any area of life, for that matter) is to follow one’s inner guidance from the spirit within. I learned that when our higher self leads the way, abundance abounds.
Now, a year later, I’ve more than doubled my income and my daily joy quotient.
Want to do the same? Follow the five tips below and you’ll be well on your way to thriving in your spirit-led business.
Meditate every day. I know, I know — you’ve heard it all before. But there’s a reason why everyone from Deepak Chopra to the Dalai Lama is telling you to meditate. It is the quickest way to connect to that part of you that knows and to retrain your mind to shut up. And when the mind shuts off, the spirit thrives.
Receive consistent energy healing. After spending more than 10 years in therapy, I realized that while a lot in my life had changed (my hair, my clothes, my occupation), I still seemed plagued with the same patterns in relationships, as well as the tendency to never rise above a certain level of success. It was like I had my own self-imposed glass ceiling. Disgruntled, I gave in when a friend suggested I try BodyTalk, because frankly, it seemed like it was my last option. After three sessions, my entire life transformed and I’ve been hooked ever since. Find a model and a practitioner that resonate with you and receive twice-monthly sessions. Then enjoy watching as your life and business soar.
Surround yourself with high-vibrating peeps. Hanging out with folks who are struggling in their businesses and lives is a surefire way to stay exactly where you are. Tony Robbins tells us we can see where our future is headed by the quality of the five people closest to us. Take a close look at the conversations you’re having and the people you spend your time with. Do you leave those interactions feeling inspired? If not, it’s time to look at making some changes in who you spend your time with. Don’t have access to folks who are living their dreams and embroiled in success? Start listening to their audio/video offerings, attend their book signings, courses and lectures. Immerse yourself in the energy of success. This will raise your vibration and the vibration of your business.
Say “no” to anything not in alignment with your soul purpose. Of course this means you need to know what your soul purpose is (practice the first three tips above and it will make itself known to you). Once you have your soul purpose in hand, do not under any circumstances take on clients or work that are not in alignment with it — especially if your thought is, “Oh, I’ll just do this for the money.” The month after I stopped doing work “just for the money,” my monthly income quadrupled. Trust me on this, stick to soul-purpose work and your business will skyrocket.
Have more fun. Working 70 to 80 hour weeks in the name of success is not fun — no matter how much you love what you do. Make sure you include fun in your daily life. The biggest attractor of opportunities is positive high-vibrating energy and nothing gets you there faster than having a blast in your personal life and with your business. Take yourself out on a date, see your favorite show, skip down the sidewalk, laugh at a funny movie (or better yet, laugh at the part of you that thought nose-to-the-grindstone work was the path to success), eat fro-yo, have whatever your version of fun is. You and your business deserve to be having a lot more of it.
We all deserve to thrive. It’s our birthright. And to thrive, we need to take empowered steps that let our spirit and everyone around us know that we are committed to thriving. If you follow the five tips above, your business and your life will thrive like never before.
I would love to hear your thriving success stories, so leave your comments below. Love! xo
Integrating from my second journey to John of God (JOG) has been a fun ride! My whole JOG experience this time around was filled with a lot of light, joy and thousands of insights. In this video I share with you some more of the guidance I received while in Brazil, along with a hilarious story of what happens when the Universe works to give you an unexpected prescription (hint: it involves wine).
This v-log is pretty long – 20 minutes in length – so my suggestion is to put me on while you finish up those dishes or while doing some yoga asanas. I promise that you’re gonna love it! It’s friggin hilarious!
Be sure to leave your comments below – I would love to know about the times when you’ve had to listen to your guidance above and beyond what everyone else was saying.
Posted: July 10th, 2013 under Uncategorized.
I’ll be in some kind of hurry – heading out the door and grabbing my water bottle, leaving the gym and mindlessly rehashing a conversation that didn’t go well, running late for a meet-up with my bestie - and suddenly I cannot find the cap to my water bottle anywhere, my phone has gone “missing” at the gym, and my keys are no where to be found. So there I am, scurrying around, searching everywhere, and cursing like mad. I am pissed off. I feel frustrated and exasperated.
When I tune into my self-talk I’m directing my anger at myself.
Now, first, I have to point out, this is a big improvement. Having been raised by two parents enmeshed in victim consciousness, along with spending 24 years as part of a fundamentalist Christian sect that thrives on victimization – I would typically be running around my home/gym cursing the Universe. Why was it choosing today to misplace my bottle cap/phone/keys?
So now that I’ve finally cleared that up – thank you BodyTalk – I’m on to berating myself. (And yes, I’ll be taking this realization into my next BodyTalk session.)
But then, it gets even more interesting.
Once I tap Cortices, take some deep breathes and distract myself to a different task at hand, the location of bottle cap/phone/keys appears. Once I shut my mind’s conditioned responses off (blame) the answer appears.
And guess what? My bottle cap/phone/keys were never actually missing.
They were right where I last put them (cap in dishwasher, phone in my gym shoe in my gym bag, keys in the last jacket pocket I wore).
Even though it appears that something has gone “wrong” and that I’ll be late/won’t be able to have client phone sessions/see my friend (or whatever other catastrophic thought my mind can conjure) – nothing is wrong at all. The only thing that has happened is that I’ve forgotten something very, very important.
I had the answer already.
I knew the location of the “lost” or “missing” item. But it was only when I slowed down, stopped rushing, re-balanced my brain with Cortices and relaxed into myself that the answer could be accessed by ME.
Not someone else, not something else, not anything other than ME.
That once the mind-crazies were cleared the truth could emerge.
And that’s how I view BodyTalk. It clears the mind-crazies so we can know our truth. It’s not me who has the answers or explanations for my clients, or for anyone. What I do have is a dynamic tool that uses the principles of bio-energetics and quantum physics to support the clearing of the mind clutter, the releasing of the conditioning, the unwinding of the story. When that happens the answers are known.
One of my clients recently got off the table, beaming. She said to me, “I love how the minute I have a BodyTalk session, everything I’ve been worrying about and stressing over becomes clear to me. I just know whatever it is I need to know.”
So, the question for you is – will you allow yourself to know your truth?
I have some clients who consistently ask me for my take on their life. While I love using my intuition, I can’t ever give anyone answers to their truth – no one can. And none of us should listen to any intuitive/healer/psychic/guide unless what they say resonates at such a deep soul level, you can feel the truth (chills, tears, a strong “yes” inside, etc).
Because the truth is, we already know the way. We just have to be willing to show up for ourselves, to show up for our life, to allow the clearing to take place and allow ourselves to connect to our truth.
That means slowing down, meditating, spending time journaling, being in the quiet, being with ourselves. In a world that is connected 150 percent of the time this can be challenging. But this is it. This is how we truly do the “work” to live our most authentic, connected, vulnerable, joyful life.
Will you join me?
I would love to hear from you – how is life teaching you these days? Leave your comments below.
With so much love & gratitude for all that you are and all that you are becoming,
Posted: July 1st, 2013 under Uncategorized.
I had originally thought my trek to see JOG after my first dramatic visit five years ago (Read the full accounting of the trip in these posts: Lesson 1, People of Brazil, John of God Ass-Kicking, Part Deux, I’ll Return, The People at the Casa), was to take other clients and friends who were ready to experience off-the-charts miracle healing along with my guide friend Kerry. When everyone who was “in” was suddenly “out” – I knew something greater was at work. So, when I went before JOG on May 1 (which fyi, is a holiday in South America, so not a good idea to visit on that day – there were thousands upon thousands there) I held in my hand three requests that felt like the core stuff that I hadn’t completely wiped out with BodyTalk (fear, worry, shame, and intimacy stuck-points).
But on this day, on day five, the knowing came in and I instantly knew that all of the above were just excuses that my soul gave to get me there. The words flew into my head so quickly, I almost rolled off my twin bed and onto the floor:
You’re here to heal your broken heart.
Tears filled my eyes. You see, this wasn’t a broken heart from any man (although my divorce nine years ago did flash into my mind as a possibility), this was my broken heart from long before.
This was the core wound, the ultimate broken heart – the broken heart I experienced as a child – from my parents.
My Spirit Guides led me through a meditation a few hours later while I sat on my favorite Casa bench (see photo to your left) showing me the exact moment my heart was broken by my parents. I was 18 months old. They were having another violent fight (which was not uncommon in my life from birth to about age 10 when my father left). It felt like too much to witness and I felt myself resist feeling the fullness of this heartbreak. But my Guides urged me to feel these feelings anyway. When I did, I sobbed, my chest heaving, my body shaking. This was beyond ugly cry face, this was full on heart-broken-ness.
My parents hadn’t done this intentionally of course – but the pain I experienced from their unconscious actions was real, and deep. From that moment on, I began to firmly guard my heart. I began to recognize that it wasn’t “safe” for me to love anyone around me or to truly be loved. I was shown how I had spent my entire life armoring, guarding, protecting from that initial pain. I felt so much compassion for my inner 18-month-old. First, for how terrifying it must have been to grow up in that house and even worse that as the oldest (eventually of 5 girls) that she had to be the strong one, the one with the answers, the one who kept everything together.
So…now what I wanted to know?
Nothing was the answer. I just needed to feel the feelings. WTF? No protocol, action steps, no process I could apply to root out this broken-hearted-ness so that it never returned? Nope, was the reply. I received the reminder I needed then and will need for some time – simply feeling our feelings brings healing. Who knew?! I had worked so hard and for so long to not feel that pain of rejection by the first people in my life – but then subsequently continued to attract people who could only support me in revisiting this pain (why wouldn’t I just feel it already and then I could stop attracting them?!) – that I realized how vital it was for me to merely be with the feelings.
After that point at JOG, I began meeting new people, connecting with others in very synchronistic ways. A sexy French man was sent to guide me through my second appearance before JOG (I don’t speak a lick of Portuguese, the sound system was terrible and I had no clue what was going on) and he also gave me the location of a city in France that had particular meaning for me (more on that awesomeness in the future!). I met a very sick man from Austin, Texas who was Christian but still found comfort and healing from JOG and who, despite his family’s warnings of being involved in the “devil’s work” had committed to living near the Casa for many months to experience full healing.
I felt my heart opening up in a new way. Each day, I cried tears of gratitude and joy, and my first week back from the Casa was filled with more of the same.
Now, I’m finding I regularly have moments where I’m overwhelmed with gratitude and thanking the Universe, Higher Power, God (whatever you want to call this Divine Love energy that is all around us supporting us in every moment!) for allowing me to live this life and walk this path.
I finally received the “okay” to receive another BodyTalk session. My first week back it came through that I was balanced and didn’t need a session (much to my and my practitioner’s surprise!), not to mention the first time that had ever happened to me – thanks JOG! The session, not surprisingly was all about my fourth chakra – the heart chakra. It was as though feeling those feelings at JOG had brought all that needed to go and be harmonized to the surface. Now, BodyTalk could work its magic and balance my body-mind-spirit! In that session, another piece from my ever-dramatic childhood/adolescence was ready to be released. At age 17, my mom kicked me out of the house after her new husband said she would have to choose between me or him. This trauma was still (I cannot believe it!) running active in my cells and was finally ready to be released. Chills and waves of energy coursed up and down my body, tears poured, rage rose and then just like on that quiet bench at the Casa, I felt it release.
My heart healing journey is certainly not over, in fact, it’s only beginning. On my 35th birthday in March, I could feel that I was becoming the woman I would have been had I not experienced so much trauma growing up. At the Casa and in front of John of God in Brazil in May I knew that I was that woman on levels I still can not yet fully comprehend, and today through the power of BodyTalk I am speechless as tears fill my eyes and I am acutely aware of the deep power of this healing path I am on.
I feel unending gratitude for John of God, BodyTalk, and this path. Thank you for reading, for allowing me this space to share with you things that I never in a million years I thought I would share. Vulnerability is the key to living a wholehearted life – as Brene Brown is teaching us all – and so it is my intention that as my BodyTalk-JOG-Intuitive-Led heart opening journey continues, I’ll be sharing it with whomever is drawn to hear/read/see.
Thank you, more please Universe!
Posted: June 4th, 2013 under Uncategorized.