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Like when I was so sick of the Oregon weather (which btw, has been pretty epic for the past year and I legitimately had/have nothing to complain about) and decided that I wanted a quick and easy warm beach getaway before my pilgrimage to Brazil to see John of God.
When a girl I had known for several years moved to Galveston, Texas with a Gulf of Mexico view and suggested I come visit – I jumped at the chance. When she said I could crash at her place, do what I wanted and we would hang out off and on throughout the visit, I thought, “This is too good to be true!” (Note to self: if this thought crosses your mind, investigate it.) Freedom, flexibility and the Gulf of Mexico? How could I say no? Well, I should have said no. If I look back on the moment I booked the trip I heard that quiet voice within saying the same thing.
But, like I mentioned – I really wanted what I wanted – so I batted said voice away and proceeded on.
Besides, I had never seen the Gulf of Mexico and I hadn’t seen this particular friend in quite some time. True, we hadn’t seen each other much because our lives were in completely different places. Essentially, we were no longer hanging out in the same vibration. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just what is.
But, I wanted what I wanted, so I carried on.
The Universe though, not to be deterred, worked to send me messages with greater frequency. I stopped hearing from my friend until just two days before the trip. Every time I told someone I was going to Galveston, Texas they told me how horrible it was and how going there was a terrible idea (I know, Universe – you were telling me all along!). I booked the flight via Southwest (and I hate flying Southwest, so I have no idea why I booked with them), which meant I could have changed the flight with no transfer fees.
To add to all of that, about three days before the trip, I woke up knowing I shouldn’t go. I was irritated; I wanted my easy beach getaway!
- Consulted my inner guidance in meditation. Got a “no.”
- Tried my pendulum. Got another “no.”
- I consulted my best friend. She suggested I change the flight – why not go on a getaway by myself? I was tired of traveling by myself so I ignored that idea.
- I asked my pendulum again. Was it in my highest good to go to Galveston? The answer was “no.”
- Hmm…Could I go anyway? Dear god, I am stubborn. After all of that, I finally got the “yes” I was wanting.
And so, I went. AND, despite experiencing flight delays and sitting on the tarmac for almost an hour after landing the Universe relented.
You see, I wanted what I wanted.
Fortunately for me, the Universe recalibrates and reorganizes even when I willfully try to make things happen.
My first full day there – even before I realized what I was dealing with - the Universe sent an angel to rescue me from this out-of-my-alignment situation. Literally, this person/angel worked to make sure we connected. So when my friend freaked out (I’ll spare you the silly details – only to say I haven’t experienced so much drama since my early 20′s) and told me I wasn’t welcome to stay with her anymore, the Universe had already moved heaven and Earth to make sure I was fully supported and taken care of. This angel took care of everything for me – made sure I had a place to stay, a ride back to the airport that was 45 minutes away and plenty of food and rest at my disposal.
While in the midst of all of the weirdness, which I now fondly refer to as a “vortex of crazy” – I was in a state of much internal stress. I was so confused; how did I get here? (Um, by not listening to your intuition. My inner dialogue – so cute!) Since finding BodyTalk more than three years ago I have experienced more peace than ever before. After living a life filled with far too much drama (wait for my memoir to get all that scoop!), this was a welcome relief. So, it was ironic that during my “relaxing beach vacation” I found myself stranded in Galveston, Texas with enough stress to make me tap Cortices every five minutes.
I immediately reached out to my supports and received a distance BodyTalk session right away (toxic friends were being cleared from my system – down to the cellular level – once and for all apparently), my sister didn’t hold back from scolding me (in a way I needed) reminding me that my long-standing habit of allowing not-healthy-for-me people into my life needed to end once and for all. She made me promise I would release any remaining out-of-my-alignment peeps. I promised and thanked the Universe a million times over for reorganizing itself despite my will to make what I wanted happen.
Ultimately, though, this experience was a complete and total blessing for me:
- First, I was reminded of the power of the Universe to reorganize and support us even when we don’t follow the signs. That didn’t mean I was protected from stress – I was extremely upset and stressed out by the entire turn of events – but I was beyond grateful to see the Universe shifting and moving so I would ultimately be safe.
Second, I was touched by the kindness of people who did not know me at all, but who rallied and rescued me from a very uncomfortable situation. I was so grateful for the reminder that if I want to have high vibing experiences I have to only ever spend time with high vibing people (apparently I needed a bigger reminder of this fact!). Who we spend time with will shape and affect our experiences. While I’m usually good at this, as my sister noted, I have, over the years been one to allow not-so-good-for-me people (who not surprisingly often mirrored personality types I had grown up with, i.e. my mother) into my life for longer than necessary periods of time. That had to stop. I recommitted to this and let go of a couple of people who were still in my life that were not fully walking a path either I wanted to be on or was on.
And finally, I was reminded (yet again) of the value of following my guidance completely. I don’t need to understand why I have an intuitive hit or what it means. All I need to do is follow it. I don’t need to have another Galveston, Texas experience to know that when I feel like I shouldn’t do something – I shouldn’t do it. It isn’t my responsibility (or yours) to make other people feel okay by doing things out of obligation. It is my responsibility (and yours) to thine own self be true – 100 percent of the time. Because when we do, everyone wins.
- One more finally worth mentioning – when I returned home from this experience I had emails and texts waiting for me from many clients and friends who “felt” something was “off” for me during this time period. Some knew I was traveling, others didn’t. One client had a dream about me – that I was sad and in need of help (indeed, I cried many tears during this whole thang – mostly in angst at myself for not listening to my intuition!), others said they kept thinking of me and wondering if I was okay. Thank you for your emails and outreach! It was such a powerful reminder that we are all truly connected. I am so blessed to have you all in my world!
I did a disservice to myself and to my “friend” by not listening to my intuition. She no doubt didn’t want to have that experience either I’m sure! And while since then I’ve sent her love and we’ve now “amicably” parted as friends – this was something I should have done years ago, but rationalized away. Having this experience reminded me that I cannot have any leaks in my energy field. If a person/place/thing is not in alignment with me – it is not in alignment with me. When we’re no longer in alignment – it doesn’t mean anyone or anything is “bad” or “wrong,” it’s just no longer in our highest good. There needn’t be judgment, only acceptance. And the fact of the matter is, I honor myself and others the most when I follow my intuition and dis-engage when I am guided to.
By the time you read this, I will be en route to Brazil to see John of God for the second time in five years. I am loving that – unlike my Galveston experience – the closer I’ve gotten to this moment, the more excited I’ve become by this opportunity for deep spiritual development, along with tremendous heart opening as I begin to feel the Casa once again. I’m looking forward to what lies ahead (and with the way my life has been expanding and shifting, who knows what amazing-ness may unfold!) and you can trust that I will share more of my experience with you here in the months to come.
In the meantime, let my story be a reminder for you. Follow your intuition. Please. For the love of all that is good and right. I’m begging you. Oh, and tap Cortices and receive BodyTalk.
Love you all more than words can express – thank you for reading and for all your support!
Turns out, my hair was just the beginning…
Actually, rearranging my whole home healing space and being told I was no longer allowed to have a desk to work at came before any of this.
I received a BodyTalk session from a fabulous practitioner in Western Australia who alerted me to “geopathic stress” in my home. BTWs I had no idea what this meant, but thankfully he gave me specific guidance (he even made me a video since the session was done remotely – our time zones are waay to different to line up) to use a pendulum to find the stress in the home.
I found it – right where my desk was located. I did a BodyTalk session on that area in my home (seriously, you can do BodyTalk on anything – it’s miraculous to say the least!) and that’s when I received the guidance to remove the desk and to help support that area as it had been traumatized by the building of the home in 1929. I was told that sitting at a desk working all day – even from my home space – no longer served me.
Seems as though, as I approached my 35th birthday, there were many things that no longer served me. I was then guided to chop my hair, as outlined here.
In fact, the night I cut my hair I received guidance that I also needed to end my romantic partnership.
What the what?!
I resisted. Surely, there was a way to make things “work.”
Later that week I received a BodyTalk session from one of my favorite practitioners in NYC and (she knew none of the above and the session was fully remote), the following message was delivered from my session:
“The notion of finding “The One” is meant for smaller souls than one like yours, so let your soul be free to love your current partner fully and trust that wherever it is going, that is the right path for you.”
What??? “The One” is not a concept that serves me? The facilitator of Manifest True Love, the author of The Quest: A Tale of Desire & Magic?
You’ve got to be kidding me.
But no-sir-ree, my inner guidance was not kidding me.
From there the Universe conspired relentlessly to show me the signs. And let me just note it made the “signs” to chop my hair look like a walk in the park. I received daily signals that my relationship was ready to dissolve and that this concept of The One was no longer serving me.
I had no choice but to surrender.
Surrender to the whisper that came into my meditation one evening amidst my confused mind: You are the love of your life.
Surrender to the clarity of my soul, despite my mind’s desire to “make it work.”
Surrender to the knowing that we never get it wrong, and we never get it done (Thank you Abraham-Hicks!).
Surrender tothe realization that women and men left my Manifest True Love series not just with dates, but with a deeper focus on self-loving in a way they hadn’t yet connected to.
Surrender to the distinct and clear acknowledgement that often love relationships are about coming together to make our insecurities “okay,” not two fully whole people coming together to support one another on a mutually fulfilling path.
Relationships under the above construct are, as I have learned, playing small. And apparently I’m not allowed to do that anymore.
Since fully owning this knowing deep within me, my life has expanded in ways I cannot yet fully process. I feel like a gimp at times, standing tall, my mouth open (see above photo – and after a photoshoot with the kick-ass photog Kathy Campbell, you’ll soon see more of this!), a grin emanating from every muscle in my face.
I awoke the morning of my 35 birthday feeling that I was now becoming the woman I would have been if I had not experienced such trauma in my early years. Tears poured down my face as I felt ME, the ME that had been there all along, aching for me to acknowledge it and set ME fully free into this world. I am more ME than I have ever been in my life and becoming more so every day. This BodyTalk path to wholeness is setting ME free in ways I never could have imagined.
So now, along with the silly grin on my face, I am walking around in a state of profound gratitude, thanking the Universe, my guides and angels of the highest light, the founder of BodyTalk John Veltheim, and whomever else might be necessary to thank for these blessings.
I have been receiving 3 or more BodyTalk sessions a week to support this transition and it has been beyond incredible.
BIG things are on the way for those engaged in this deep healing work, those committed to following our innate wisdom as it guides us so perfectly, so beautifully – and guides us even when we can’t imagine where it is leading us.
So, I have no idea where this path will take me next. And I am so completely committed to following the guidance from within to live my soul purpose to its fullest expression, that it doesn’t even matter. I am here now and it is beyond my wildest dreams (this is no exaggeration as I was raised believing Armageddon could arrive at any moment, but more on this awesome part of my journey in the months to come…).
Thank you for sharing this journey with me.
I am so grateful for you.
So much love to you,
It is my extreme pleasure to announce an exciting mystical weekend retreat that I am co-facilitating October 4-6, 2013!
(It is also the title of my soon-to-be LIVE DailyOM course, take the 4-week course this spring and immerse yourself in the living reality of it this fall for a full weekend!)
This event is designed especially for healers, therapists and clergy to learn how to use BodyTalk to inform their work in congregational, chaplaincy, therapy, healing and other healing-centric settings.
This weekend will prove to be a deeply healing, mystical and magical way to enter the crisp fall season filled with an abundance of group BodyTalk healing sessions (4!), dance, meditation and sacred ritual. Let’s experience the shedding of our own stuck-ness and deadness, as the trees release their leaves this fall. All the details below…
Return to Wholeness: A BodyTalk Retreat for Healers, Therapists & Clergy
Menucha Retreat Center, Columbia River Gorge, Oregon
Led by BodyTalk practitioner Heather Strang and BodyTalk client and pastoral applier Rabbi Debra Kolodny
For those escorting other souls to greater awareness, expanded consciousness and/or a life in Spirit: Renew and restore your own deep well as you learn how to use the healing you receive from BodyTalk to support others. Enjoy spiritual companionship and participate in ritual, dance, prayer, meditation and chant interwoven with transformational BodyTalk sessions through the sacred ‘time out of time’ of Shabbat (the Jewish Sabbath) and Sunday morning.
The rhythm of the weekend is designed for spacious integration of our shared practice and learning.
For those interested in one-on-one sessions in either BodyTalk with Heather or Spiritual Direction with Debra, 4 sessions will be available with each on Sunday afternoon, from 1:30 until 4:30pm and can be reserved in advance, via the registration form (email to receive).
Costs & Deadlines
Triple room: $375
Double room: $425*
Please register and pay in full before July 4, to meet our required minimum in attendance. All reservations must be made and paid in full by September 5. Cancellations after July 4 will receive 50 percent refund.
*Specific roommates can be requested.
About Your Facilitators
Rabbi Debra Kolodny serves Pnai Or of Portland and has been supporting Jewish communities and organizations since 1998. She has taught hundreds of workshops on Jewish mysticism, Jewish Renewal, conscious community, prayer, Jewish meditation, bisexuality and spirituality, has published widely on these topics and has led dozens of retreats. She has practiced taiji for over 17 years, and has a daily meditation and prayer practice. Debra has been in relationship with a variety of complementary healing modalities since 1990. She finds BodyTalk to be the most holistic, comprehensive, effective, efficient and powerful tool by far, and she deploys it regularly in her congregational work.
Heather Strang (see photo at the top of this web page) is the author of The Quest: A Tale of Desire & Magic, Anatomy of the Heart: Love Poems, and the upcoming sequel to The Quest, Following Bliss. She is a Certified BodyTalk Practitioner and Shambhala Multidimensional Reiki healer, and became interested in holistic healthcare after utilizing energy medicine to heal herself– first via John of God in Brazil and then using BodyTalk. Heather currently merges her passion for love and healing by working with individuals one-on-one and facilitating a host of courses and healing circles. Learn more here at: www.HeatherStrang.com
Friday: Registration begins at 4pm
5-6 pm Welcome, introductions, establishing sacred space
6-7:30 Dinner as we welcome Shabbat (candle lighting, blessing Spirit for wine and bread)
7:30-9 Opening session: Welcoming Spirit, Walking Meditation, Initial group BodyTalk session
10:15-11:00 Intention for the day, Circle of Blessing, Gratitude and Praise (Shacharit)
11:00-12:00 Second group BodyTalk session
12:15-12:30 Diads/Spirit Buddies
1:30-3:00 Free time
3:00-3:30 Circle of Joy, Reflection, Praise (Mincha)
3:30-4:30 Third group BodyTalk session
4:45-5:00 Diads/Spirit Buddies
5:00-5:30 Circle of Dialogue-ways to use BodyTalk in our work
7:30 Moving Meditation-No resistance, no letting go
9:00 Adjourn for the evening
8-9 Dance (optional)
10-15-11 Intention, Circle of Blessing, Gratitude and Praise
11-12 Final group BodyTalk session
12-12:30 Closing circle–Awarenesses, hopes, intentions for bringing home
Individual sessions with either Heather (Body Talk) or Debra (Spiritual Direction) available Sunday afternoon from 1:30p-4:30p.
Register by emailing here. Upon your request, you’ll receive the complete registration packet with forms and next steps. Special diets honored by request.
And since I wasn’t allowed to celebrate birthday’s growing up (yes, I was that kid sitting in the library during all the holiday and birthday parties, courtesy of being part of the Jehovah’s Witness organization), birthday’s are a BIG thing for me now. In fact, I celebrate for my entire birthday week. Some think this is over the top, but for a girl who felt like she was continually missing out on celebrating, it’s a must for me.
So, I love planning celebrations and ways to treat myself. I absolutely love creating my life.
But, sometimes…sometimes I get the feeling that it isn’t all up to me. Especially when I receive guidance that is NOT what I want to hear. And this, my friends, is very difficult for me. I’m a manifester, a creator, a woman in control of her life. Right? Right? Well, maybe not…
In fact, when I reflect on the most amazing events and experiences in my life, they are usually ones that I didn’t have any control or input in. For instance:
- Going to John of God, which set me on a path of deeper healing and wholeness. But I would never have gone had I not had a tumor on my left ovary.
- Moving to Kauai where I wrote my first book, Anatomy of the Heart.
- Writing a romance novel.
- Having said romance novel optioned as a film.
- Becoming a BodyTalk practitioner.
- Facilitating courses, healing circles and retreats (more on that to come soon!).
That’s right, I did not intentionally manifest any of the above.
Here’s what input I did have: I knew that I wanted to live from my soul – that I wanted my soul to guide me, that living from my mind was making me crazy and sick (this insight came after tumor on ovary). I knew I wanted to write and support others healing (I thought this would mean writing non-fiction books and being a coach/therapist. Ha! Shows you what I know.).
So, I asked first and foremost to live from my soul’s guidance and then I followed every sign that came in. And wouldn’t you know it – all of those signs led to the above unfolding.
By now you’d think I would be pretty good at following the guidance/signs and going with them – trusting and knowing that they are for my highest good.
Well, you would be wrong.
I still resist the guidance I get! In fact, it took me double the time to write The Quest because I spent most of the time resisting it, telling myself what a stupid idea it was to write a romance novel. And when recently the Universe was sending me an abundance of signs to chop my hair off, I said, “Absolutely not!”
But the signs kept coming – a client who is highly intuitive telling me she had a message for me, that I had to cut my hair short. My boyfriend saying that I should cut my hair short because it would look so good on me (wait, what??), seeing a gal with curly brown, short hair dance by me at ecstatic dance and noticing the thought pop into my mind, “that looks so good and free.”
Yup. My guidance was saying it was time to cut my hair.
But, I didn’t want to.
I was very attached to my beautiful, long hair. It made me feel pretty. I had gorgeous blonde streaks in it to lighten my face. I thought that’s what made me attractive. (And I had to do a whole much of unraveling on this – how does hair make one attractive? Crazy limiting belief!)
But, when I sat with this in meditation, the response was strong and clear – the hair had to go. I resisted this guidance for 2 weeks. Then, while in meditation one evening as I asked, “why?!” I heard that in the long hair contained the old Heather. The Heather that was being released. And that throughout my life I would grow my hair and cut it off because the hair contained memories of who I used to be, of who I no longer was.
Finally, I surrendered.
When my sister Amanda (the most fabulous stylist ever!), took the first big cut to my hair (lopping off more than 9 inches), I screamed (half-jokingly of course). Then we both laughed. And then I looked in the mirror.
It was the hair I was supposed to have.
Since then, the details for my BodyTalk sessions seem to come in with increased speed, my meditation and vortex creation more in flow and life has picked up to a whole new speed of awesomeness.
I had no idea something as simple as hair could have such a profound impact.
More importantly, it was just another reminder that our inner guidance always knows best. Always, no exceptions.
So, what guidance are you receiving that you’re resisting? What continual nudges are you getting that you keep turning away from?
Please don’t avoid it any longer. Your highest good awaits and it exceeds every dream you’ve ever had.
All my love,
P.S. To see the new do, check out my Cortices video. Updated pictures for my website and novels will be out in early April. xo
It’s true. The more I walk this path of healing and love, the more I feel the truth that we are all connected – our healing circles and series’ are a huge reminder of this truth as well. I also realize that I can only love you as much as I love myself (for more on this check out Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection).
We are living in a culture that says we’re not quite lovable unless we look like this (insert whatever you tell yourself the standard of beauty is), we make this much money, we have a partner who also looks like _____ and makes this much money and is lust-worthy by others. Oh and yes, of course, that we are happy every minute of every day.
And while logically we know this is all crap – not to mention completely impossible (we came here to experience the full range of emotions!) – I know I find myself succumbing to its impact on various occasions. You know, looking in the mirror wishing that if my _____ (belly, triceps, etc.) were thinner I would have the courage to wear that sexy outfit that’s hiding in my closet. Or emotionally eating a bag of raw, organic cookies (I polished off a bag of Go Raw Lemon Cookies the other week – I’m still trying to decide if that was emotional eating or just really amazing, healthy cookies!) or whatever bag your hand is in.
We all have moments of engaging in this less than self-loving behavior. But what I think we forget is that this less-than-self-loving behavior makes it tougher for us to love those around us. If I hate myself I can’t love you.
When I love myself, I love everyone. When I am connected to the love within me, I am connected to the love within us all. So when “tragedy” occurs or “bad things” happen, I see the divine truth of the matter – we are all here for a purpose and things unfold exactly as intended. Nothing is ever going “wrong” in the eyes of our divine, true self. When I am not in a place of self-loving, I am irritated, angry, frustrated and unable to understand why things are the way they are. I blame. I look for what’s wrong. I am without connection to my divine self.
BodyTalk has been my reminder of this fact. I absolutely believe it is a path to wholeness and a path to fully self-loving. With it, we receive direct guidance and healing from our innate wisdom – who we really are – the part of us that knows that getting sick, our friend yelling at us, a break-up, losing a job, losing a loved one – all of it has a divine purpose. I am honored to witness these reminders each day with my one-on-one clients and during my healing circles/series.
Everything, and I mean, every thing, is unfolding exactly as it is meant to. Because it is. Our job is to connect to our divinity within, to the love within so that we can share and feel it for everyone around us. BodyTalk is one of the paths to this self-loving wholeness.
And you can do something right now to begin that journey back to fully loving yourself, therefore loving all of those around you, and loving the world and all that exists in it.
- Go to a mirror, right now.
- Look into that mirror.
- Make solid eye contact with yourself.
- Look deeply into those beautiful eyes. Say, “I love you, ____.”
- Say it again.
- Feel the love from your soul shining forth to you.
- Observe your mind trying to insert its less than self-loving story. Say, “I love you ____” again.
- Now, go over to the person nearest to you and say, “I love you.” They don’t have to get it or understand it or say it back. Just share that love shining forth from you.
And finally, I will leave you with this quote from Marianne Williamson’s new book The Law of Divine Compensation which illustrates that love is really what we’re all here for:
“Love makes us wake up in the morning with a sense of purpose and a flow of creative ideas. Love floods our nervous system with positive energy, making us far more attractive to prospective employers, clients, and creative partners. Love fills us with a powerful charisma, enabling us to produce new ideas and new projects, even within circumstances that seem to be limited. Love leads us to atone for our errors and clean up the mess when we’ve made mistakes. Love leads us to act with impeccability, integrity, and excellence. Love leads us to serve, to forgive, and to hope. Those things are the opposite of a poverty consciousness; they’re the stuff of spiritual wealth creation.”
Oh, and btw, I love you!
Get in on the self-loving and relationship loving action here.
Want some inspiration on the love path? Read my novel The Quest – only 99 cents for the month of February!
Manifest Your Dream (to self-love, love another, love your life, etc.), March 5-27.
Have something to say? Leave your comment below or send me an email.
With the new year comes new opportunities to shine our brightest light. I absolutely believe 2013 is all about “claiming” the big-ness of who we really are and to move forward in carrying out our mission.
In my client BodyTalk sessions that message is coming through again and again as clients are being asked to live their hearts truest desire (which is taking some of them to places like California and Hawaii!) and to follow this true desire with their true love. My second novel, Following Bliss, based on experiences I’ve had with the non-physical realm shows how the “other side” often works to bring us together with our true love and true purpose.
In essence, the time is NOW. Not tomorrow or next week or when we have time, but now. Time to embrace who we really are (despite what our friends and family might think) and to live solely from that place. It means letting go of old stories, old people and old ways of doing things that no longer work.
Are you ready for this??! Cuz it’s BIG.
If you are, (And if you’ve read this far, you definitely are. I find that if people don’t go running at the mention of non-physical beings, they usually are ready to step into living at a higher frequency.) there are many, many supports for you on this path.
Join us this month for a lot of healing and claiming goodness! Tuesday, January 15th is the Claim All You Desire BodyTalk healing circle which allows you to begin the process of shedding the layers of small-ness and old stories that say you’re not worthy to claim what you desire.
If you’re ready to Unleash Your Creativity in 2013, join me and members of Women in Portland Publishing (WiPP) on Saturday, January 19 at 2pm at the home of WiPP founder Jennifer Weaver-Neist. If you remember, I spoke at WiPP in November and Jen and I got so inspired we decided we needed a healing circle just for women creatives. RSVP by emailing me here.
And if you’re ready to claim BIG LOVE (think Mr. Big & Carrie, minus all his avoidant drama!), join us January 22-February 12 for Manifest True Love – a powerful 4-week healing series that brings true love to you in ways you never imagined.
As always, I’ll continue to share with you awesome healing opportunities from healers I love (see post below), like Gabrielle Bernstein and my fave spirit guide guru Jacquelyn Pannullo with Body Soul Love.
2013 is your year to claim who you really are, at your core and to live from that beautiful place.
Will you join me?
The launch into 2013 has my mind and soul connecting, working together to map out my best year yet. I’m positively giddy with excitement around what the future holds (novel #2 being released, bringing healing to as many people as possible and love, love, love – among other things).
But, truth be told – we can’t do it alone.
Nope, we need support. We need inspiration. We need to see others who are rockin’ it so we can have the courage to continue forward on our own healing path.
And that’s why I’m so stoked to have the support of Gabrielle Bernstein’s newest book May Cause Miracles: A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited Happiness.
In it, Gabby outlines a 40-day program to guide us into miracle-ville. In it, she addresses everything from food/body image (and after the holidays, who doesn’t need some support in this department?!) to finances, romantic relationships and creating a life of service.
I’m finding Gabby’s book to be both inspiring as well as a positive reminder of what I know to be true: miracles are happening every day. And with the love and support of individuals who kick ass (like you, me, Gabby and countless others) – a life of miracles is not only possible, but an everyday reality.
What I love most about Gabby’s book is the continual reminder that while yes, we all need love, support and encouragement, it is our inner guide that knows what is truly best for us. May Cause Miracles gives us tools for the path, and our connection with our inner guidance is the beaming light to make our particular way clear to us.
We’re all together in this big, awesome world, and I feel so grateful to know we can create miracles, everyday, together.
I’ll be putting into practice what Gabby outlines in May Cause Miracles, beginning this Sunday, January 6. If you’d like to join me in this miracle-filled journey, feel free to email me or reply in the comments below.
With so much love!
“In a single moment – all that we know can be stripped away – the death of a loved one, a divorce, the loss of a job – and suddenly we’re left standing at the mercy of the Universe. “Why did this happen? What did I do to deserve this?” we cry. And the Universe answers, “It’s to move you along your path. It’s to teach you to live.”And once again we rise from the ashes, reborn.” -Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go
This is the experience a lot of us are having these days.Even if you’re aware and on your soul path, the stuff (to put it mildly) is going down as the pressure seems to mount and build as we approach the end of the year.
But, you know what else is happening these days?
Moments of deep connection, crystal clear clarity about what we’re here to do and who we’re here to do it with, commitments and aha’s that we’ve never had before.
In essence, this seeming chaos and things going “wrong” is leading us back to our whole selves.
This is the time to do what your soul is urging you to do. I encourage you all to make a commitment to do the following everyday from now until the end of the year:
- Tap Cortices 1x a day or more (you knew I was going to say that, didn’t you?).
- Meditate every day for a minimum of 20 minutes.
And then, you will know exactly what it is you need to do to transform the seeming chaos to the healing and wholeness your soul is asking for.
P.S. Here’s some inspiring music for your journey. Enjoy! xo
After my divorce 8 years ago, I swore I would never get married again. Never.
I didn’t actually understand why anyone got married.
You see, I was raised to believe that if you wanted to have sex, you needed to get married. Sounds crazy, right? Well, welcome to a glimpse of 24 years of my life as a Jehovah’s Witness. According to the JW’s (and many religions) sex is only to occur between a husband and wife. And since hormones start raging early on in life, the formula quickly becomes sex = marriage. Not surprisingly this leads to a lot of divorce (and super young marriages), amongst other headaches.
Once I left the religion, and my husband of two years declared he no longer wished to be married, I was free. I could have sex and not be married (this was a novel idea for me at the time!) AND I could choose to never have anything to do with marriage again.
Until I fell in love with two my favorite people in the world, Jessica and Jeremy.
They got engaged, and asked me to officiate their wedding.
Facilitate a marriage ceremony? Whoa.
I was about to face a topic I had avoided for 8 years.
What did I really think about marriage? Not, what did the religion think about marriage, or what did “God” think about marriage – but rather what did I think of marriage? And honestly, I didn’t really know. It had felt like a prison to me. But was it really?
As I created the ceremony for Jessica and Jeremy (with the strong help of the book Sacred Ceremony), I began to make peace with marriage. Through this process I was able to understand the true desire to marry. I also got clear about what this kind of commitment really means.
Essentially, marriage is one of the vehicles for ascending to our highest selves. We can do this in any relationship, of course. But the level of commitment that marriage requires is one of the ways we really show up and do our work. Imagine it (and many of you are currently living it), you are committing to love one person romantically for the rest of your life. You two are going to get to know one another better than anyone else in the world. You’re going to find one another ridiculously sexy at times and at other times, just plain ridiculous. You are creating a family, even if you never have children. You are still becoming one with another human being and letting the whole world know about it (via the wedding ritual and wearing wedding rings).
To make a commitment of this depth and magnitude requires far more than a desire to get laid (note to religious organizations everywhere) but rather an intense desire to know one’s self and grow in a way that only a union of this kind can facilitate.
I’m still in awe of what I’m uncovering about marriage.
I was overcome with love during Jessica and Jeremy’s ceremony and watching two people I love go so deep in their growth and commitment to one another.
In the meantime, I’m still allowing this rewiring in my brain to sink in…I even sorted a lot of it out as I wrote my next novel Following Bliss. In fact, I think via this ceremony and writing Following Bliss, I’m finally clear about what this sort of commitment looks like for me (and I sense it’s time for a big paradigm shift in how we create our romantic commitments!). More to follow in 2013 on this!
What are your thoughts on marriage? Share them below!
P.S. And a big shout-out to our cameraman, the illustrious Steven LaMere. Love you love! xo
Awesomeness alert: My dear friend Gabrielle Bernstein is throwing down some hot knowledge about the key steps to manifesting your desires! In the Q and A below, Gabrielle gives us crucial guidance on how to truly manifest and achieve our goals in 2013. To top it off she’s also offering a FREE group-coaching course (of which I’ll be part of!) in December on the topic of manifesting.
Q – You are a self-proclaimed manifesting maven. Can you demystify this topic for us?
Gab- We are always manifesting. Each thought we have creates an energy flow within and around our physical being. This energy attracts its likeness. So if you’re thinking, “I suck,” then your energy kinda, well, sucks–and you attract sucky experiences.
The opposite experience occurs when you think high-level thoughts like, “I rock!” When you think and feel, “I rock,” you exude an energy of confidence and in turn attract great experiences into your life. Each thought you have informs your energy, and your energy manifests into your experiences. Your thoughts and energy create your reality.
Q – You talk about manifesting mishaps. Can you tell us more about this?
Gab – Manifestation has become a buzzword lately. Though it’s totally awesome that the Law of Attraction is now trendy, it also can be a bit misleading for folks who are unwilling to do the heavy lifting. If you truly want to use your energetic power to manifest greatness, you must clear all that blocks you from believing in your greatness.
A Course in Miracles teaches that on some level, you’ve asked for everything that happens in your life. Your intentions create your reality. There’s no need to beat yourself up: simply recognizing how your low-level thoughts negatively affect your life is the first powerful step toward changing your experiences. Begin your manifesting process by getting honest about how your low-level thoughts, energy and feelings of disbelief block you from receiving what you desire. Once you get clear about the blocks, you can begin to clean them up to clear space for positive manifestations to occur.
Many people, when trying to manifest, focus too much on the outside form rather than the internal condition. From A Course in Miracles’ perspective, what’s important is our internal experience: whether we choose to experience love or fear. When we commit to our internal experience of love, we begin to attract more love. Many people approach manifestation from a place of “How can I get something to feel better?” Instead, the focus should be: “How can I feel better and therefore be an energetic match for attracting more greatness into my life?” The emphasis must be placed on healing the internal condition, not getting a hot new car or boyfriend.
Q – You have Five Principles for Manifesting Your Desires can you share them with us?
Gab: Here are my five key principles for genuine manifesting. When practicing these steps, make sure to stay committed to the goal of feeling good first and attracting stuff second. Continue to remind yourself that when you feel good you energetically attract goodness into your life. When your primary function is to be happy, then whatever comes to you is irrelevant. Happiness is your true manifestation.
Principle One: Clear Space
Before you begin the manifestation process you must take the necessary time to release all your disbelief in your power to be happy. One of the best ways to clear the blocks of disbelief is to pray for release. Begin a daily prayer practice of asking the Universe to set you free from all the limiting beliefs that block you from believing in your greatness. Stay open for signs from the Universe and show up for the assignments that are brought to you. Universal assignments come in many forms. Maybe you’re guided to the relationship that brings up all your shit so that you have to finally heal your fear. Or maybe you lose your job so that you can learn the lessons of self-reliance and strengthen your self-love. Trust that these assignments, however tough at times, are incredible opportunities for you to clean your energy and clear space to call in what you desire.
Your job in this step is to pray for guidance to clear all that blocks you from believing in your greatness. Then allow the Universe to help guide you to whatever assignments you need to aid in the healing process. Show up for the assignments and trust that the more you clean your thoughts and energy, the more positive experiences you will attract into your life.
Principle Two: Get Clear
Clarity is king when it comes to manifesting your desires. You must have clear intentions for what you want to call in–otherwise you can manifest a lot of what you don’t want. Focus on what you desire and then make a list of all that goes along with it. If you’re getting clear about the job you want, make a list of all the things about the job that make you happy: the office, the people, the salary, etc. Be unapologetic about what you want. This list helps you clarify your intentions and access a vibrant mental picture of what you desire.
The most important part of this step is to clarify how you want to feel. When you get clear on how you want to feel, you can begin to access that feeling. That feeling is what makes the manifestation come into form. You can write a thousand lists and make a million vision boards, but if you don’t clearly feel what you want to experience, it will never truly manifest into form.
Principle Three: Think It, Feel It, Believe It!
Now let’s put these steps together. Take your clear intention and spend time every day sitting in the feeling of what it is that you desire. You might access the feeling through meditation and visioning exercises. Or call on the feeling when you’re in nature or doing a form of exercise you love. Let the thought inform the feeling and let the feeling take over your energy. The more you feel the feeling of what you desire, the more you believe it is on the way. From a metaphysical perspective, if you believe it then it is already here. So make time for contemplating, thinking, feeling and believing.
Principle Four: Chill!
The next step is crucial to the manifestation process. In order to truly manifest your desires into form, you gotta chill out! A Course in Miracles teaches: “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.” Take this message with you and allow your faithfulness to guide you into the belief that what you desire is on the way. Also trust that the Universe has a much better plan than you do. Though you are clear about what you want, you cannot control the timing or the form in which it comes. Stay calm, relax and trust that the Universe has your back!
Principle Five: Know the Universe Has Your Back
When you’re in the know you’re deliberate about what you want. When you’re in the know you no longer vibrate energy of fear or disbelief. You just know. As your disbelief wilts away, wanting is replaced by knowing. Getting into the know happens naturally. When you diligently practice steps one through four, you will clean house, get clear and feel happier. This process is healing and powerful, and it leads to a deep inner knowing that you are right where you need to be. Accepting your greatness in this moment, right now, is what manifests more greatness. Being in the know helps you accept that you already are living in your desired manifestation. When you feel it, you live it–regardless of what is happening on the outside. In time, the Universe catches up with your energy and your desires come into form. This process of allowing the manifestation to follow your internal faith is the true process of co-creation.
Stay Committed to Happiness
Stay committed to this five-step process and trust that you’re exactly where you need to be. Is your main desire to feel good? Trust you will be given everything you need to create that feeling. Know that feeling good is the true manifestation–and everything else is the icing on the already delicious cake!
Q – Next week you’re offering a free course in Manifesting. Can you tell us more about this?
Gab: If you want to learn more about Manifesting you can get two free video coaching sessions on the topic. December 3rd and 12th I’m leading a course called How to Manifest Your Desires in 2013! The course is free when you order my new book May Cause Miracles. You will also receive my guided meditations, audio book intro and Authentic Power lecture. To learn more about the course click here.
To pre-order the book and get your gifts & course click here.